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It took me about two years to find my husband, and I was the one who approached him which is usually not my style. In July of , I saw his picture on a dating site, but he was looking for women between the ages of 40 and 58 and I was around So, I wrote to him and said I know I don't fit your age range, but something about your picture and profile piqued my interest.

He responded within a half hour and told me that his late wife would have been a month older than I am, so age wasn't an issue, and the rest, as we say, is history. I used to make up names for these sites.

Some of the names weren't very nice. Basically, because people can be anyone they want to be on these sites, they take advantage of this and lie through their teeth. I actually saw a man who posted a picture of a guy who resembled Frank Sinatra. He also was quite articulate and called himself Joe. I agreed to meet him, but, when I did, he looked at least 10 years older than his picture and he wanted me to get into his truck.

I told him "No thank you", waited till he drove off first so he couldn't follow me home and left. To add insult to injury, this Joe guy went on another dating site, didn't post a picture and called himself "Frank" and approached me again.

I responded by writing, "If your name is really Frank and not Joe, I'm willing to meet you. I decided to phone him at a different time and his voice mail said, "This is Joe. Please leave me a message and I'll get back to you. I wish you luck in finding someone on a dating site. I tried Zoosk, OkCupid, Eharmony. com, Match. com, SeniorFriendFinder and AdultFriendFinder. SeniorFriendFinder worked out the best for me, except for the fact that women on there were, I hate to say it, "old biddies" and they didn't like me because they considered me competition - lol.

Yeah I know foxie its finding that one prince. It's been 5 months since we split and I am desperately lonely and feel I need a man to fill the void.

What's making it worse is that the ex told me not to get a bf as he needed to sort himself out. He was an alcoholic and very abusive verbally to me.

Funny thing is that he didn't verbally abuse his ex wife as she put up n shut up about his drinking. Me I just couldn't , I couldn't watch the man I loved drink himself to death and for that he punished me severely by having a one night stand although I found weeks if texts so I suspect it was more than this and then just walking out the door leaving me with 2 kids and not a look back.

What makes me cry is the why did he do this as just the day before we were looking at buying a new home and we was getting married in November. Never looked back once and has done no contact with me since June 1st when he left with all contact initiated by me. I present as being desperate to fill my void and I sit at home asking god why he allowed my ex to meet a new gf in which they have just clicked and I hear off my kids he tells her he lives her. So he is happy and yet I sit at home alone.

I have visions if their relationship lasting with no abuse especially as I hear she is timid and will put up with his drink. So he has landed on his feet , will probably go on to marry this one and he will continue to blame me for our split by telling his family I told u it was her my new gf has no problem with my drink. I question why god allowed him to have met the love in a new gf when I sit here lonely and I did nothing at all wrong to him.

Where's the karma and fairness in that it should be him lonely not me. He will never regret leaving me he is narcistic and has all the traits of being So. When will karma get him and when will I be happy.

I have been trying to kid myself that I am over him I am not and I cry daily. Even the split with my ex husband of 11 years never hit me this hard.

Alcoholic abusive and cheater and the loneliness makes me feel I want him back. My days are so hard full of self pity and thoughts about him. I just want to meet my prince and karma to repay him for what he did. God life is so hard for me.

that's the thing about online dating. You have men and women who aren't perfect 10s physically, but they're great people. My observation as man is that I can't even get a response from women who are average to above average looking, and I realize beauty is subjective, but I'm not going for the high maintenance 'babes' -- because I don't want that. I am the kind of man that women on there claim they want, but we can't even have a conversation.

While my ex was very attractive to me, she had smarts and the qualities I look for. We were able to build out attraction over who we are and the physical didn't matter as much. We both kind of lucked out there. If she looked like the women that message me on these sites, it wouldn't have worked.

She made a huge mistake leaving. The break up was all on her and I can't control that, but I digress So what am I to do? I am in my early 30s, debt free except for my mortgage, have a dog, a car, and a Harley.

I know what I want in a woman and that's all I'm missing. I want to have my own family. My ex and I isolated ourselves socially a little bit, so there's a lot of loneliness right now. House feels very empty. I can be happy when I'm by myself, however I like being in a healthy relationship. I don't have a bunch of unreasonable requirements, but I won't settle either. I don't know where I should be looking. Hi I agree I am not after perfect 10's either. I don't want a FTP dead gorgeous man as the likelihood will be that he will be big headed and will not treat a woman correctly.

But dating sites seem to be full of stunners who are after one thing or men that are completely unattractive. Like you I did not expect to be in this position as my ex was well aware I wanted a life time partner. Like you I am independent , have a high flying job, have a lovely 4 bed house, have a lot to offer. I feel just like you. My house is empty cold and lonely when my 2 children are with my ex. I became co-dependent on my ex due to his alcohol issues and the loneliness has hit me hard as with the abusive things he said I have days when I do not know my self worth.

It's harder in ur late thirties and upwards as like foxie lady has said the good ones are already taken. I am 40 and am finding it so hard to meet a genuine person. I get almost insulted at the men that bombard me on these poor dating sites and when I have spent 3 months looking on the sites and I see nothing but scraps it becomes disheartening. I need my void filled to help myself as well as I know My tears are because of loneliness.

I wish luck to both of us as on these sites we are sure going to need it x. Stay with it chantydani. Don't get disheartened. It may take a little time, but do try and focus on you, and not seek approval or get your self-esteem needs met by men.. Look for independence in those areas and when you find a good man, as you will in time, you wont need him as much..

I guess one thing to keep in mind is that there are people like us out there. Some left us and others left because of the people they were with weren't good people or had too many issues. I say you shouldn't have any trouble finding someone being a pretty woman, but I'm in somewhat the same boat -- can't even get one to even start a conversation with me on these sites!

How the heck can they know me if they won't even do that? It's so frustrating. I joined a new gym in town that just opened today, but I have no idea if that's a place to meet people. I always worked out at home or outside. Maybe just being a friendly and harmless face will pay off there someday. I'm not going to sit in the bars and troll for women who are more likely than not going to have issues. I though about going to a church, but that feels wrong to go just to meet women.

I believe in God, but that's besides the point. I just don't know what to do. Most of my friends are married, having kids, or getting married. Hi johnny nice to hear from you again. Hope you are well and thanks for your response. You are again correct as I do indeed feel I need a man to value my self worth and its wrong that I feel that way.

I am now thinking of joining a gym although I am thin anyway as I hear exercise helps self esteem issues. I still have my ups and downs and I really feel someone needs to wrap a baseball bat around my head to drum it in that I have list nothing but an abusive man who was an alcoholic and a cheat and I now have peace.

I was at a party recently at a friends and I became tearful under the influence of alcohol. A complete stranger asked me what was wrong A lad of only 25 years of age. I poured my heart out to him between my sobs. I asked him why no men in clubs etc approached me. He said its because your good looking at men are too wary of the knock back.

That upset me more as men don't know me so its funny how they judge. I am tall, really long legs and get nothing but stares with no approaches. I remember all my exes feeling that I was going to cheat because of my looks but I never did. My exes best mate also tells me no way would he approach me if he never knew me.

But its like johnny and foxielady said keep persevering and do not lose hope. If we give up and don't put ourselves out there then we may be single for a long time. I am going to do what the guru's say and keep trying as they are the experts! In fact I am going to at least eye up every average to above Average man I see now and see where that gets me lol. No one understands why I have been single for 5 months but maybe like johnny has said it does not help me when I don't value me as I am sure men can see sadness in my eyes.

Yeah, my ex was 6 feet tall and I'm 6' 6" and she would always get stared at, but so far as I know nobody ever tried to approach her either. In the bars it's all the superficial stuff. Which is fine if that's what you're looking for. I would rather just get to know someone by talking, which is why the online dating thing seemed appealing to me. I met my ex online, but it wasn't online dating. She grew to like me through mutual interests and she pursued me.

It ended up being the best relationship I ever had. I don't understand it. The loneliness is the worst part. Yes the loneliness is awful. It's what I cry over. I hate it. It's though I need the void to be filled but like johnny has said we should not need a replacement partner to fill the void and loneliness so it is clear we both need to do some more work on our confidence etc.

I am going to continue to try Internet dating. I have met 7 men by talking to them over many weeks on dating sites, have met with them and established that they lie to impress, have used old photos, have gained significant weight, or have talked about their exes non stop. Although you may talk to women for weeks on a dating site, do not expect them to be as they portray As I have unfortunately found out.

I only meet people for 2 hours on first date but the one I met last night required a bail out after 20 minutes.

I went to use the toilet and phoned my friend to request that she phoned me in 5 mins to pretend her car had broken down and for me to come and get her. So she did and I promptly apologised and left. Why did I do this Because I sat there listening to some 35 year old chav telling me all about being done for street racing, that his dad owned a 3. On and on. I thought do you know what mate stuff this! I had been speaking to him daily for 4 weeks. Communication will not mean you will meet a genuine honest person.

Where are the good ones gone!! I don't know about the loneliness stuff. I keep busy, work a regular 40 hour week, work out and walk my dog when I get home, and try to do stuff with friends when they aren't at a bar or with their families. I drink, but right now I don't. Part of my process of healing has been to put all of my efforts in eating 'clean' and working out to get those emotions out, so I gave up alcohol.

Not hard for me, but I'm doing it anyways. I just miss having a woman around, so is that loneliness? You go from having that female touch whenever you want it to not at all. I don't need it -- I want it. Is that wrong? That said, it needs to be from someone I want to be with.

I worked out my issues a long time ago, and while there's always room for personal growth, I'm at a place where I'm ready for the next relationship. I miss having a man around so I suppose its a void in my life that I want filled. You have a void you miss a womans touch. I go to bed on my own and I miss cuddling up with a man and having him to rely on. I think your self esteem issues are better then mine and I need to improve myself to you level.

I note you go to the gym and you say it gets your emotions out I plan to join a gym. Previously whenever I have been single I get into a rebound or relationship straight away hence the reason none of them worked. Like you I think its right that we don't just settle for anyone as it won't last and we will just end up hurting the person we got involved with when we didn't really want them.

I will stick to my standards as you should as like the guru's have said perseverance is the key. I certainly understand the loneliness all too well. After my lovely husband committed suicide, the loneliness was terrifying and wound up in a rebound relationship with a man who basically had no respect for women.

Thank goodness I got out of that disaster, but I suppose you might say I went from the frying pan into the fire because my next relationship was with someone I believed was my soul mate but who wound up totally undermining my self-esteem by being psychologically abusive.

I sometimes felt like a character in FIFTY SHADES OF GREY, as this man got me to engage in unspeakable behaviors all in the name of love. The problem is that he could never tell me he loved me, and, once I realized this, and once I found out how often he had cheated on me, I was done and, as the song title goes, "Alone Again, Naturally.

I joined those dating sites where I met my husband. I look forward to his coming home every evening, and it's wonderful not to have to deal with the loneliness. As I've said many times before, I still sometimes think of my ex as my soul mate, but how could a man who never loved me be considered my soul mate?

It was just a figment of my imagination. I do believe, however, that women who have been psychologically, emotionally or physically abused by men have to do some serious work in order to find a man who isn't abusive. Maybe because my late husband was a good, loving man, I later realized what I didn't want and I met my husband. Being good-looking can be a liability to some extent, but, on the other hand, a good-looking woman has more of a chance of meeting a variety of men than a more average-looking woman.

I had the misfortune of being called "sexy" and this caused a lot of men to come on to me for the wrong reasons. Having a sweet voice and disposition didn't help either, as I was seen as an easy mark. I really wasn't an easy mark at all, except for my ex, the one I thought was my soul mate. It took me about two years to meet my husband, but I never lost hope.

If you keep the faith and if you try to project confidence, you will eventually meet someone who is suitable for you. Remember that relationships are a compromise, but no one should have to settle for less than a loving one. The gym in my town just opened today, but I have a brand new rowing machine I use every morning, I do free weights after work, and then usually walk the dog every night.

Winter is coming though, so the gym opening is a welcome thing. I have found that regular exercise keeps my mind fairly occupied, and when I'm thinking during it, it helps me fuel what I'm doing. It's all for me though, so that's the good thing. I also just feel better and more energetic. Coupling it with a good diet and plenty of sleep and it puts me in a good place.

Yep, the desire for a woman around is highly appealing. It can't just be anyone, so I will stay patient and as positive as I can. The online dating scene has gotten me a bit down, so I question if that's where I should be.

You'll be okay! Try out the gym. Do you know any other females who you could go along with as a guest to see if it's something that will give you that boost it gives me? Hi foxielady thanks for the response. Persevere I will. And you are right I have been abused in the past by physically and emotionally and I need to do a lot more work. I seem to get more attention off 20 - 30 year old though on these dating sites.

Hey ho shall I have me a toy boy I am going to join the gym as dm has and it has helped his emotions. Work on self esteem, confidence is on the agenda and I need to sit and think why I chose bad men. I feel I have a history of picking any good looking man that flatters me and offers attention as I have always been vulnerable and low whenever I have started a new relationship.

I have mates who can go to the gym with me but I am confident to go on my own. Put it this way me and my ex split up for 5 weeks and I cancelled his plane ticket and jetted to Dubai, Taiwan, phillipeans on my own with the children for one month. My other choice was to cancel No way! I am strong career wise, etc so will hit the gym readily on my own. I knew I should have joined one as people said it helps self esteem etc.

I need to kick my butt for not doing it sooner. Foxie -- I'm glad things worked out for you! So do you think loneliness is okay or am I even using the right word based on what I'm looking for? I mean, I'm not depressed or anything at all. I accept what happened to me. I get sad sometimes and I also get angry about it, but none the less, it happened, I can't control it, and I am moving on. What I want and what I have to offer has not changed with my ex gone.

I certainly don't want to end up alone, a small fear at the moment , but I am okay not having what I desire for now. I just want to position myself to meet eligible women. I wouldn't call myself a homebody, but I don't find much interest in being out in bars. I live in a small town 30 minutes from a major city. My responsibilities limit some of my free time. haha, it didn't mean you couldn't go on your own!

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